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Compassionate Self Archeology

For Couples and Intimate Partners

Compassionate Self-Archeology for Couples: Building, Rebuilding, and Deepening Your Connection

In any romantic relationship, the bond between partners can be a source of profound joy and connection—or it can become fraught with tension, misunderstanding, and conflict when unresolved personal issues come to the surface. Compassionate Self Archeology™ (CSA) offers couples an opportunity to explore and heal these underlying dynamics, helping them build a solid foundation, rebuild after hardship, or deepen an already strong relationship.

When individuals haven’t engaged in their own inner work, unhealed wounds and unmet needs often emerge within the relationship. These unresolved issues can manifest in various ways:

Emotional Triggers: Past experiences of rejection, abandonment, or betrayal can lead to heightened sensitivity in relationships, causing overreactions to perceived slights or distance.

Communication Barriers: When old wounds resurface, they can distort communication, leading to misunderstandings, defensiveness, or shutting down emotionally.

Patterns of Conflict: Unresolved inner dynamics can create recurring conflicts where the same issues are argued about without resolution, eroding trust and intimacy over time.

Projection of Fears and Insecurities: Partners may project their fears or insecurities onto each other, expecting the other to fulfill unmet needs from the past, which can strain the relationship.

Difficulty in Trust and Vulnerability: If one or both partners carry unhealed wounds, it can be challenging to fully trust or be vulnerable, leading to emotional distance and a lack of true intimacy.

These unresolved dynamics can hinder a couple’s ability to truly connect, leaving them feeling isolated, misunderstood, or disconnected. The impact extends beyond the relationship itself, affecting each partner’s sense of self-worth, emotional well-being, and overall life satisfaction.

Why CSA for couples?

  1. Deepens emotional connection: CSA helps couples explore and heal the emotional wounds that may be preventing them from fully connecting, leading to a deeper and more authentic bond.

  2. Enhances communication: By understanding and addressing the root causes of emotional triggers, couples can communicate more openly, effectively, and with greater empathy.

  3. Reduces conflict: Through self-exploration and healing, CSA allows couples to break free from destructive patterns of conflict, fostering a more harmonious relationship.

  4. Builds trust and vulnerability: CSA encourages partners to explore their fears and insecurities with compassion, making it easier to build trust and open up to each other.

  5. Strengthens the relationship foundation: CSA helps couples identify and address underlying patterns and dynamics that may destabilize their relationship, creating a solid, resilient foundation for lasting love and partnership.

Program Costs

3-day Intensive Program for 2: $6,200 ($3100/person)

  • 3 in-person full-day sessions, 24 hours total

  • 4 nights private accommodation in Queen room and all meals at Unfragile Farm Retreat Center, Sheboygan, Wisconsin

  • 2 sets of program materials

5-day Intensive Program for 2: $9,550 ($4,775/person)

  • 5 in-person full-day sessions, 40 hours total

  • 6 nights private accommodation in Queen room and all meals at Unfragile Farm Retreat Center, Sheboygan, Wisconsin 

  • 2 sets of program materials

  • Includes deep trauma resolution work