Each of us is born whole—loving, lovable, capable, worthy, and enough.
Our very nature is to bond and belong.
We are meant to thrive.
Yet, as we grow many of us begin to act in ways disconnected from the essential wholeness into which we were born and we reach adulthood in a very different version of ourselves. A version that may feel unworthy, unlovable, damaged, bad or helpless, or one in which we act in ways that cause harm to ourselves, or pain to the people in our family, the person we love, or our community.
Why do we disconnect from our essential wholeness?
At Zelia, we approach this question from the science of human development which teaches us that our brain, body, emotions and nervous system develop in interaction with our environment.
We are not pre-formed, genetically determined people—we are born with expansive potential of who we will become.
The surroundings and circumstances to which we are born; the capacity and wellbeing of our parents; how we are received and nurtured by caregivers—all of it matters to our developing self, and it matters a lot.
Our very personhood -- our world view, sense of self, emotional regulation, physiology and sense of connection and belonging—develops in response to these experiences.
It’s pretty straightforward, then. To understand why we disconnect from our wholeness, we need to explore the actual reality of our experiences, and discover how we received, responded and processed these experiences.
Straightforward doesn't mean easy or without emotional pain.
Compassionate Self Archeology™ is Zelia’s research-based approach to unearthing ourselves and restoring our essential wholeness.
Unearth You.
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